We tend to separate our appearance from the rest of our personality.
We’d think about our skills and positive qualities. And then at a separate time we’d think about the way we look, and if I had to guess, more often than not, we would be harsh to ourselves, saying that we have a fat bum, big tum or we are ugly, etc.
Here is a simple exercise I’d like you to do:
Take a piece of paper (or use your notes on the phone) and dump all of your positive qualities and things you like about your appearance in one list. Make sure that you alternate between your positive character trait or a skill and something about the way you look.
Here are some questions which might help:
What do I like about who I am?
What do I like about my appearance?
What characteristics do I have that are positive?
What is the one thing in my body I like?
What are some of my achievements?
What in my look do I get complimented on?
What are some challenges I have overcome?
Which public figure has similar looks to me and carries them with pride?
What are some skills or talents that I have?
What positive thing might my friend say about my looks?
What do others say they like about me?
What do I think makes someone look unattractive?
What unattractive looks don’t apply to me?
What are some attributes I like in others that I also have in common with?
How might someone who cared about me describe me?
*Remember to include everything no matter how small, insignificant, modest, or unimportant they are!
Here is what your list might look like after you finish it (of course everyone’s list will be different, as we are all different individuals):
Considerate
Beautiful eyes
Reliable
Cute freckles
Health
Nice hair
Conscious
Nice eyebrows
Resourceful
Straight teeth
Avid Reader
Beautiful fingers
Artistic
Nice ankles
Strong
Cute smile
Organised
Good Listener
Gorgeous legs
Funny
Well Travelled
Nice tan
Adventurous
Chiselled cheekbones
Politically Conscious
Nice bum
Charitable
Cute nose
Creative
Cute dimples
Active
Now that you finished your list, you can see that you are a well rounded individual, not only defined by your looks OR your skills.
And you know what, now that you are in a positive mode, you can see if some of the things you don’t like about your appearance can actually be improved on! If you work out your body shape and your colours you will be able to refine and uplevel your appearance.
Because it’s all about being smart rather than beautiful!
Want to join my membership and learn all those things? Just drop me a 2 word email and say: POSITIVE LOOKS
info@kaykorsh.com
Cover photo at the top courtesy of Peter Lindbergh